Posts Tagged ‘people’

People a blessing!

Wednesday, September 3rd, 2014

People a blessing

People who betrayed you, challenged you, hated you, ignored you, were the ones whom God chose for you to learn to change your ways and are a blessing for you. This post got the maximum likes and shares as our post on Facebook. That is when I realized that it is not only my own experience but the experience of so many others. Usually when people love us and appreciate us we bend towards them because we all like being appreciated, loved and praised. But when some people ignore us, hate us; our normal reaction is we have negativity in our heart for them. But honestly when this time I got the same response I had been getting again and again from some people in the family I realized, it’s not about them, and it’s about me. God is trying to show me something about me and not them.

I prayed to God to give me clarity on this and He showed me that the more we try to attach ourselves to people, more approval we seek from people; we would receive more of such responses. This got me to immediately pray to God to detach me to all want in me to seek approval in any way from any one and attach me to Him. Also I prayed to God that I needed to seek only His approval for my actions, so help me do this. There was a shift, a shift in my attitude, a shift in my perspective, a shift in my actions. And this gave me lot of peace. When we seek people’s approval for our actions we lose our peace but when we seek God and His approval, we not only get approval but experience the joy and peace bubbling in us.

That is when I realized that whosoever God puts in our life even though we have had distasteful experiences, it was for our own good. So we could listen to God more and seek Him more. So I encourage you today that all those people who scrub on you like sand paper may seem painful but are only making you shine. So be blessed!

Lessons of life – dealing in relationships

Thursday, February 9th, 2012

How do you deal with difficult or uncalled situations in your life? How do you handle people whom you trusted all along and thought that they had moved on with the differences you had, but one fine day God shows you that you moved on but they stuck themselves there and are looking for every opportunity to pull you down?

These things can get messy if you let them. Recently I went through one such situation and it was not the first time but it was a recurrent of events and I had been ignoring the behaviour of some people close to me thinking that I need to change my perspective, my way of dealing. I was thinking it one way but God was thinking differently. He was putting me in these situations for me to understand a very important aspect which would lead me to a breakthrough in my relationships with everyone.

That aspect was to first to detach myself completely from the person’s behaviour and secondly to understand that just like God gives people as per their receiving capability same way I was to give people (respect, worth, love, importance) as per their receiving capability. The mistake I was making was that I was giving more than what the person was actually prepared to receive. It was not that person’s fault but mine.  This God revealed to me when I persistently prayed to God that inspite of my genuinely wanting to love people, their response would generally remain negative. I wouldn’t know why I faced rejection consistently. God made me understand that the best way to deal with situations and people is to deal the way He does and His ways are not man’s ways. And to understand His ways you’ve to spend time with Him and involve Him in every area of your life like a mentor-Shalini Mehta